Keeping the Relationship Alive Year after Year

One thing I truly believe in- is healthy relationships. Hubby and I have been together going on nine years and we are just as happy in our relationship as we were in the beginning. We are best friends who do all we can to keep our relationship alive. Now, don’t freak out… I am not going to talk about all those private things that men and women do, this is a family friendly blog; but I will tell you about some of the things we have done to make our relationship a strong one. .

I believe the core of a good relationship begins with YOURSELF, how you feel and see yourself! I am sure you will agree that when a person is stressed out about work, money, children, etc., the first thing that feels the repercussions of this stress is their personal relationship with their immediate other. I have noticed when I am tired or frustrated about life, Hubby feels it. 

Another thing that can come between a relationship is when you do not feeling sexy. I admit it, once the children came, so did the old worn out tee-shirt that I now wear to bed. It is crazy, because I don’t remember the day I started wearing that old tee-shirt, but somehow, between nursing my first born and today, that sexy lingerie I used to wear went out the window.

The last thing that can halt a relationship is a lack of primping. I will tell you that when talking to other moms, the one thing we all agree on is that we don’t go that extra mile anymore to put makeup on, dab perfume on our neck, or even shave our legs as often as we did in the past. When you have kids or have been with your immediate other for so long, those things just don’t seem as important.

Now, instead of allowing our relationship to get put on the back burner or become stale… Hubby and I have worked to keep it alive. These are the steps we continue to take:

1.  The MOST IMPORTANT Step is communication with your loved one – just by keeping the lines of communication opened we have built a very sturdy relationship. I have found that by telling Hubby when I am feeling not-so sexy or am stressed, we are able to work it out to make it better.
2. Relax with a bath – running a household of 8 can be stressful, not to mention the hours I put into Adventures of My Family of 8! There are times I look at the clock to realize it is eleven pm, my head is pounding, I have four on my shirt, and I had yet to shower for the day. This is when a nice relaxing  bath, with bath oils, body scrubs, and salts come in really handy. 
   
3. Bringing back the sexy – every now and then it is nice to forget about that old comfy tee-shirt for the night and feel like a woman again. Now, don’t worry, I am not saying you have to go out of your comfort zone. You decide what makes you sexy. Whether it is sexy lingerie, a sexy bra and panties set, a soft sexy robe, or chemise, sometimes just doing something as simple as putting something sensual on, can make you feel sensual.
4. Relieve those tensed muscles – back when we both had jobs and what felt like unlimited income, I was a part of a massage club at a local massage parlor. What it was was a monthly fee that covered one massage a week… yes, you hear right, one massage a week, and BOY did I take advantage of my membership. I loved getting my massage and of course, felt like I was floating on air, afterwards. Well… now we can’t afford that membership anymore, and I am okay with that since I now get my massages at home. It is a way to de-stress and bring us closer.
5. Primp a little – I know, I know – time is not something we have a lot of. Between the kids, work, and the household, who has time to primp? Well… take my advice – make the time, even if it means a little bit of blush and lipstick, you will feel better about yourself and look better to your mate. And please, come on ladies, and shave those legs, ha, ha, ha…. I know I don’t like kissing Hubby when he has stubble, do you think he wants to slide in bed with you with Sasquatch legs?? Ha, ha, ha…

Every relationship takes work, but I have learned that if you work on YOURSELF, then everything else seems to fall in place. 

What do YOU do to keep YOUR relationship ALIVE? I would love to know if you have any tips you would like to share… (Remember -keep it clean...)

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